Continued from Raising Fools – Part 1
I’m lying with my upper back flat while the rest of me twists to the left, right knee almost touching down to the floor mat. The move soothes my lower back, especially the right side that is tight from sitting at a desk too much lately. Over twenty people surround me, all of us mirroring the moves my wife makes from atop the platform at the front of the group exercise room. We are stretching at the end of her weight training class; she tells us to twist a little more if we can.
I glance around the room and an errant thought skims past. It disappears before I grasp its full meaning. Not until I walk past the gym’s yoga studio a day later does it hit me. I back up to look at the participants twisted on yoga mats and the thought comes back, this time pulling into sharp focus: this large group of adults pay a significant monthly sum to have someone show and tell them to do what my kids are doing naturally.
And what have I been showing and telling? I’ve been showing anger at my kids’ energetic playfulness. I’ve been telling them to stop. Stop running. Stop jumping. Stop twisting and stretching into crazy positions on the floor. Stop using the couch back as a high jump. Stop racing up the stairs. I have been preparing them for a sedentary adulthood by trying to wring out everything in them that instinctively keeps them in shape, limber, and healthy.
Nature knows what she’s doing. She gives our kids natural urges to run, climb, stretch, and twist. And foolish adults like me brow beat it out of them while criticizing their childish behavior. I’m starting to believe that society, and its discouragement of this particular “childish” behavior, is the foolish entity.
Some may say part of the solution is to tell kids to go outside to burn off this energy. I definitely encourage my kids to spend time outdoors. We all need that connection to nature, young and old alike. But to tell them to go outside because they are doing what comes naturally, feels too much like banishment, exile for egregious behavior. I’m coming to the conclusion I need to stop sweating the wear and tear on the furniture and house. I doubt I’ll have either in the next five years, but I do plan to have my kids around for the rest of my life. Maybe letting them climb, run, and twist, like nature intended, will ensure they stay healthy and around for my final years and well beyond.
I also believe society needs to embrace this type of “childish” behavior instead of banish it. We can start by doing these things:
- Replace conference room tables and chairs with yoga mats (they will double as sleep cushions for nap times after lunch, like most of us had in kindergarten)
- Meet on nature trails instead of in board rooms
- Settle corporate lawsuits with dodge balls versus attorneys
- Run up the down escalators and down the up ones to get between floors (One business I know has a spiral slide from the third floor to the first)
- Cross office lobbies via monkey bars and rope swings (What I’d truly prefer is rope swings crafted from discarded neckties and stockings because no one has to dress up for business any more)
- Make the climb up the corporate ladder literal instead of figurative
It’s probably safe to state that most adults in the U.S. don’t get enough exercise. Could it be because we are not acting as foolish as nature intended?
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Sometimes, I’ll find myself running to my car from the bank or doing yoga while waiting outside for our breakfast reservation, if kids can do it why can’t we 😉
This post reminded me of a book written by Phillip Simmons called, "Learning to Fall". It is worth checking out, very moving and inspiring. Thank you Chris
I will definitely check that book out, Kate! Thanks for your comment.
You are such an enlightened leader and business owner Chris!
Makes me want to apply for a job at your company (again) as it sounds more play than work.
It would be great if you’d also offer table tennis and take your business group to challenge courses like this https://www.xtreemechallenge.com/challenge_walk.htm occasionally 😉
I like your thinking, Katja.
I love this Christopher Laney 🙂
Why, thank you. 🙂
Congratulations! You have seen the light. When I read your last post about scolding your kids for their relaxed sofa poses, I remember thinking, "… but what’s wrong with what they are doing." My withheld comment was for you to "lighten up." So glad to see you have had the eureka moment on your own. There will be plenty of time and opportunity for your kids to be restrained and taut, when they have become reserved adults wondering why they can’t find contentment and serenity in their highly controlled lives. Perhaps now you might even find yourself lenient enough to join them in a languishing evening of upside down sofa yoga! Good for you, Chris.
Hi Linda,
Even though you withheld your comment, I can attest that I still need to "lighten up" on occasion. 🙂
And, I actually sat upside down in a leather chair the other day to read a book.
Perfect. I loved it. I can tell you that sitting at a computer for too long has made it difficult to do what children love doing and I’m trying to recapture that ability.
Great post. Made me want to get off the sofa.
Melody relayed your message.
Or jump over it! 🙂
Looking forward to seeing you soon.
This is great. I didn’t comment on your first post b/c I suspected you were going here. The activities your kids do are the very definition of primal living (marksdailyapple.com). He encourages adults to MOVE and PLAY more in their lives. I think you and the boys have inspired me to start using the couch as a hurdle. And I am ALL ABOUT the dodge ball to settle lawsuits. 🙂
Thanks, Dena. I knew my kids were on to something when I could never catch them to wring their little necks. 😉
Great post, Chris! I often say to my yoga students, "The fact that we are sitting and lying on the floor at this stage of our lives says so much. A lot of people our age don’t do this, and some of them can’t do it." One of the many gifts that yoga continues to give me is an experience of playfulness. Mindfulness, too, of course; however, sometimes it’s the playfulness that I embrace the most… I’m definitely going to share this post with my yogis! 🙂
Thanks, Steve. It was probably your yoga class I walked past!